Growing up in a black household isn't always easy, sometimes it's harsh, a very harsh reality. Sometimes we have a lot of dysfunction in our family, so much that we try to take ourselves out of it just to see that it is our reality. If you know you are trying to further yourself sometimes you HAVE to separate yourself from your family and it's hard because you wish you could come to them and be open but you can't. Sometimes it's because of how irrational they are or they just don't see eye to eye with you to respect your thoughts or decisions. Following what your family thinks is best for you isn't always the best thing to do. Notice that I say " sometimes " and " not always " because functional homes don't always apply to this. The points that I am opposing works out in some homes so if following tradition or what your family thinks is best for you works for you, by any means go for it because that's guidance, but I'm speaking to the ones who families don't have much of that or want you to do what's best in the families eye's and not yours. I remember being able to count on both my hands how many words I said to my mom in a week's span. Emotionally, that was hard on me but I'd rather stay to myself versus expressing myself and not getting a thing out of it. Be true to yourself before you sell out on yourself for somebody else.
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