“I think it becomes a real problem letting another man motivate you. I don't think that's the way to better yourself.”
- Dennis Smith Jr.
As I read through a recent interview including Dallas Mavericks rookie
Dennis Smith Jr. this statement stood out to me and I wanted to go into further elaboration on what I think.
I believe letting another man INSPIRE you is just fine. Sometimes we don't know who we want to be. Through life experience and seeing what builds purpose in others we tend to envision what we want in our own lives and what we can see ourselves putting forth our energy and effort towards. Inspiration from someone else does not require dependency... Motivation does. Having that said, we don't need another person to motivate us on our OWN goals because of two reasons:
1. We can only create purpose from ourselves as individuals
2. The trajectory of your goals and purpose now rely on another person
When you depend on another person to motivate you it shows that you do not have the ability or confidence to create the fire within yourself to get things done. Also, your performance or the way you go about whatever it is you are chasing is now in someone else's control and not your own. The issue with is that you have nothing to lean on from a moment to moment basis because you are motivated by a PERSON. So when that person isn't there to keep you motivated or not doing the things that keep you on your A-Game you have to rely on yourself. This is when your problem comes into play. You didn't build that accountability and confidence through yourself so when it comes time for you to do it on your own you are lost, all over the place, complacent, and just discouraged. We shouldn't use others for leverage in things we should take accountability for on our own.
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